And That’s What It’s All About

12 Jun

This funny little article, It’s Not About You, is so perfectly phrased, I just gotta share. Nos. 2 and 3 particularly resonate with me. The importance of minding one’s own business and not attempting to control other people’s lives, because that is appalling and how dare one, is a lesson I didn’t learn as young as I’d have liked. And also what a real apology is, and how an apology actually isn’t “I’m sorry . . . YOU FEEL THAT WAY, THAT IS, and P.S., I’m still awesome and didn’t do anything wrong.” Because that is how a child apologizes. I’m still surprised every time I see a grown-assed grown-up apologize like that for all intents and purposes, which is basically all of the time. Eyes all cast to the ground. Yeah, you definitely saved face by doing that.

Anyway, Ijeoma Oluo says it better than me in her blog, so read it. Very tidy, very nice.

One Response to “And That’s What It’s All About”

  1. bethR June 12, 2012 at 6:17 pm #

    i’m intimately familiar with one of those fake apologizing people. that bit is a real treat and ties in well with deflection and self-preservation.

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